Most human beings love to help. We help people, animals, even the planet. And it is a beautiful quality of being human. But have you ever wondered—are we really helping others, or are we in fact helping ourselves?

This isn’t about people who post their donations online to gain likes, fame, or financial benefits. That is another conversation. Here, we explore the inner reality of what happens inside you when you choose to help.

The Happiness of Helping

Imagine you meet a homeless person. You buy food, perhaps give some money, and walk away. Inside, you suddenly feel lighter. You feel generous. You imagine the person’s gratitude, maybe even how they are enjoying what you gave.

Sometimes you might think: “If I ever face hard times, perhaps this good deed will come back to me.” This is what many call good Karma. And yes—good Karma is good.

But here’s the subtle danger: when you dwell on it too much, when you keep replaying the thought of your good deed and the happiness it gave you, you are constantly spending your vital energy on it. The more you cling to the memory, the less freely the actual blessing of that good deed can return to you.

Too much attachment—even to good things—can harm you.

The Trap of Attachment

The healthiest way to help is to do it with love, and then let it go. If you attach yourself to your good deed, you also create expectations. And with expectations comes disappointment.

For example, I once had a friend who didn’t eat meat because she didn’t want to harm animals. She was a teacher, a kind-hearted soul. Yet she still ate fish. And every time she ate fish, she felt guilty—because she wanted to be a “good person” and not cause harm.

But here is the truth: in many countries, fishing is an industry where families work hard to survive. Fishermen risk their lives at sea, just to bring food home and to market. When you buy fish, you are not just consuming—you are also supporting their livelihood. You spend your hard-earned money, they support their families, and life continues.

So why ruin the moment with guilt?

Being a good person is not about being worried, anxious, or unhappy. It is about living fully and appreciating the life you have been gifted—whether you call it a gift of the Universe, or of God.

The Freedom of Awakening

When you awaken to this truth, you begin to see reality more clearly. You see why sometimes even while doing your best for others and the world, you still end up unhappy—it is because of the attachments and expectations you create around your actions.

Helping is beautiful. But the purest help is done with no attachment, no guilt, and no expectation. Simply do the good, and move forward with joy.

At Being-Space, we guide you to see life with this clarity—to live freely, help sincerely, and experience the happiness that comes from living in truth.